Reader’s Question

My mom is experiencing great depression. It seems like she’s getting worse. What should I do?

Our Clinical Psychologist’s Reply

First, be supportive. Talk to her, express your support, and let her know that you can tell she is not feeling well. Many people don’t feel they are depressed as they are more worried about the physical signs of depression such as not eating, not sleeping, no energy, can’t concentrate, etc. She will probably also have crying spells and irritability. Recommend that she visit her family physician and volunteer to go with her to the appointment. As a psychologist, I’ve had all kinds of relatives bring their family members into the office. Older parents have brought their 45 year-old daughter and children have brought a parent in.

You can also express your concern to your mother’s friends or other family members. If she feels close to a brother or sister, you might mention her mood to them. It may take more than one person to encourage your mother to get the help she needs.