Reader’s Question

My bride of 6 months is having an affair. I don’t want to lose her. How do I identify what I am doing wrong? How can I identify what I am not providing?

Our Clinical Psychologist’s Reply

You must first identify why you feel you are doing something wrong or you are not providing. She is having the affair so it’s safe to say that she is responsible for most of this situation. There may have been a variety of errors and mistakes in this situation. Both may have gotten married before your relationship was stable. She may have unfinished business in her life or been too immature for marriage. Having an affair six months into a marriage creates more questions about her than about you.

I’d recommend seeking counseling to sort this out. Try to look at this situation objectively and not assume full responsibility for an affair she created in your marriage.