Reader’s Question

How can a wife motivate her retired 62-year-old husband to stay active during his retirement?

Our Clinical Psychologist’s Reply

People are not only living longer but also they are working longer than they did only 15 years ago. Many people enjoy vibrant, active, and challenging lives well into their eighties.

Research into the secrets of remaining active in later years has uncovered several facts.

Some individuals find it best not to retire at all in the traditional sense. Rather, they continue working, though not in the same kinds of time-consuming and energy-demanding jobs they had in earlier years. Because the number of workers in the 22-44 age group is actually expected to shrink in the next several years, opportunities for even part-time work for individuals in the 55-70 year-old group will only become greater.

Staying healthy is an important part of being active and maintaining the motivation to stay active. Although it’s not always possible to combat the forces of nature, there are certain illnesses that are more susceptible to lifestyle choices. So, exercising regularly, eating healthy foods, consuming alcohol in moderation, etc. can not only help a person avoid illnesses that threaten an active lifestyle but also help a person stay motivated to be active.

Keeping a healthy social life is also important. Maintaining contacts with friends and family and especially making time to nurture friendships and relationships are all important. Folks who join clubs or who regularly associate with others who share interests seem to live longer, happier, more vibrant lives.

Many folks who are retired or semi-retired maintain a sense of personal fulfillment by becoming involved in an enterprise bigger than themselves. Volunteer work, membership in a community organization, and acts of charitable kindness can all help a person feel more vital.

Don’t forget to dream a little. Life is not over yet and there are plenty of things to explore and do, even if you have meager financial resources. Plan a trip, adventure, visit with old friends, etc. People stay the most energized when they have things to look forward to.

A more direct answer to your question about what you specifically can do to help motivate your husband is to maintain and promote a positive attitude. If you don’t fall into the trap of feeling like you have to act in the stereotypical ways you’ve always heard retirees should act, and you display a zestful appetite for life, it can be really “catchy.” On top of that, if you send the message that you’re eager to share the fullness of life with your partner, you’ll do a lot to enhance his motivation to live life to its fullest.