Q: In the past, on and off, I would look at rather violent and deviant pornography. This progressed into looking at illegal pornography. It is hard for me to even admit the things I saw but I assume you can figure it out. Needless to say it was the worst of the worst. I would [...]

Q: I was sexually abused years ago. Now I have a boyfriend and I’m afraid I am losing him, because I refused to have sex with him because of what happened in the past. What should I do? A: I am very sorry that happened to you. Given what you have experienced, you may or [...]

Q: For years I have suspected that I may have been sexually abused as a young child. I am 20 years old now. I am my mother’s only child. My father left when I was two and a half years old. Six months after my Dad left, my Mum met a man who was working [...]

Q: Three times recently I’ve caught my husband watching porn. We’ve been together ten years and just had our fourth child, and I know he loves me. I eventually gave him the green light to watch because I thought it probably keeps husbands from being unfaithful; keeps them from getting bored with the same sexual [...]

Q: I recently read an internet post where a sex offender said that he was a hebephile and argued that hebephilia was perfectly natural. I know it isn’t a mental disorder, but I am still perplexed by his reasoning. Is he right? Is hebephilia nothing uncommon? Is it okay for, say, a 30-, 40-, 50-year-old [...]

Q: I’m a young guy, aged 20. I was a jovial person with a lot of friends, having a good life like every other young person my age but for the past two months I’ve been deeply depressed. I used to watch porn clips — from the age of 13 — but I started getting [...]

Q: I am a therapist and I recently opened my office. I have a male client in his mid-twenties who is a high school teacher and football coach. He told me recently that he has had a porn addiction for more than ten years. He said he masturbates many times per day and views the [...]