Q: I am sexually confused. I fantasize about women, enjoy hetero porn and sometimes surprise myself in my ability to get attractive girls’ numbers. But I never call them. I have never had a proper girlfriend. I don’t think I feel lust toward men. I cannot tell if this is because I’m repressed or deluded [...]

Q: When I was nine my family and I stayed with my aunt and her two daughters. I’m female as well. One cousin is my age and the other is a few years younger. We used to lock the bedroom door and role-play as abductor and victim. The abductor would pretend to feel the victim’s [...]

Q: In the past, on and off, I would look at rather violent and deviant pornography. This progressed into looking at illegal pornography. It is hard for me to even admit the things I saw but I assume you can figure it out. Needless to say it was the worst of the worst. I would [...]

Q: I was sexually abused years ago. Now I have a boyfriend and I’m afraid I am losing him, because I refused to have sex with him because of what happened in the past. What should I do? A: I am very sorry that happened to you. Given what you have experienced, you may or [...]

Q: For years I have suspected that I may have been sexually abused as a young child. I am 20 years old now. I am my mother’s only child. My father left when I was two and a half years old. Six months after my Dad left, my Mum met a man who was working [...]

Q: Three times recently I’ve caught my husband watching porn. We’ve been together ten years and just had our fourth child, and I know he loves me. I eventually gave him the green light to watch because I thought it probably keeps husbands from being unfaithful; keeps them from getting bored with the same sexual [...]

Q: I recently read an internet post where a sex offender said that he was a hebephile and argued that hebephilia was perfectly natural. I know it isn’t a mental disorder, but I am still perplexed by his reasoning. Is he right? Is hebephilia nothing uncommon? Is it okay for, say, a 30-, 40-, 50-year-old [...]