Dr Jim Bierman, PhD has answered the following questions at Ask the Psychologist: Online Licensed Psychologist.
Q: I’m 19 years old; I was 18 when this happened. I had just broken up with my first love, whom I was with for over a year, so I was completely vulnerable and didn’t want to be alone. I met a guy right away and started dating him. About a month later, we were […]
Q: I am in an on and off relationship with this guy. He was engaged at age of 22. After a long relationship, things didn’t work out between them. He’s now 26 years old, and he’s not been able to be in another relationship. Every time we get close, he gets afraid and asks me […]
Q: My common-law wife of 10 years and I got into an argument about a week ago. She left the house and went for a drive. We texted each other in the meantime, as we don’t argue in front of the children. We have two daughters, aged five and nine, and she is currently five […]
Q: I’ve been seeing a psychologist for depression for a few months now, and I’ve noticed that like most (if not all) therapists, she takes notes during our sessions. I was just wondering, am I allowed to ask her what she is writing about me? I’m just curious as to what sort of impression I […]
Q: I have met a nice man, but sometimes he has strange outbursts. I have tried to find more information on them, but I don’t know what they are called. During the outbursts he manically denies everything, lies, rationalizes — in all possible ways refusing to encounter the thing discussed. I know all of these […]
Q: I’m a 23-year-old male graduate student at university who has never dated. I’m generally confident with people, but I’m a bit shy around strangers in social settings. Lately, I’ve noticed that this shyness is worse around people to whom I’m physically attracted. I feel very physically unattractive, knowing that only two women have ever […]
Q: I have a compulsive need to do what I call starting over. It started when I was 10. I would blink my eyes to start over — and be perfect, that is. I would tell myself that I need to walk, talk, think and act perfectly. I have spent years blinking constantly. Now that […]
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